I’ve read a lot of articles on learning how to say “no” and the importance of being able to do just that. In fact, the articles I’m referring to link the ability to say “no” not only to personal health, but also success.
I totally get the merit of these articles and the self-empowerment that comes from the ability to say “no”. Don’t get me wrong; it was a major accomplishment in my life to learn how to do so, but over time, I became so good at saying “no” that I stopped saying “yes”.
It is not always the case that we don't have enough time – sometimes it’s that we aren’t making it. It’s certainly easier to say “no” to someone or a situation that has the potential to be uncomfortable. But, easy doesn’t help you grow.
I over pack my plate a hell of a lot of the time, but I got tired of saying “no”. In the past few months I’ve worked hard at being a “yes” woman… and particularly so in situations that fall outside of my comfort zone.
An invite to dinner from a younger PR professional seeking advice? YES. An invite to lunch from one of my highschool teachers? YES. Drive into the city 3 days in a row for brunches and dinners? YES.
Sometimes opportunities and connections are knocking – even banging – on our door and we intentionally act like we’re not home.
Who are you not answering the door for in your life? What opportunities are you saying no to? Have you forgotten how to say “yes”?
What if you embraced the notion that everything that happens in your life happens for you? Or that the universe has put each situation, request or invitation in place?
With an open mind, an open heart and a double nod of the head,